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Jan 14

My Hormonal Balance is The Wackness. And The Wackness SUCKED.

Published in Widowism by chefswidow

Things I did on a Sunday:

I know.  SUPER CHEESE.  But I can’t help it…
Our marriage has been teetering as of late.  The stress of the new restaurant, the schedule changes, the anxiety caused by talking to cute food writers on the phone, the direness of our financial situation, the super fast flyby childhood of our kids, our families, and the addicted brother.  All of it has been affecting us.
Affecting our relationship.  
The Chef & I came to a standstill while in Michigan for a friend’s wedding, and had yet to move past it.  The bickering & the fights seemed to get BIGGER over smaller stuff.  
But Sunday changed all that.  We woke up still with chips on our shoulders from things we had said to each other last night, last week, & last month.
On Sunday morning wer decided to spend the day together.  Childless.  Just the two of us. Husband & Wife. We hoped that it would give us a chance to really talk to each other, a chance to give our relationship the time that it deserves and ultimately needs.  A refresher course if you will…

 

It did.  We did.

Day date leads to night date when it comes to us

The day (and night) was incredible.  For the first time in months’ we were our former selves.  We were Amelia & Jonathon. Not mom & dad.  Not Chef & Mrs. Chef.  Not She & Him.  It was just us.  And it was sooooo good.  Hanging out & actually having fun was something that we both desperately needed to have happen before the opening.  We both needed to remember that deep down, past the stress-ball that is our life, we ARE actually in love.  Real love.

{ As opposed to the fake kind that one may see on Rock of Love Bus, the best television show ever made.}

Love that takes time.  Love that takes work.  Love that yells.  Love that cries.  Love that wants to sucker punch.  Love that screams.  Love that kisses.

Love that loves.

 

***Sapping it up since 2009***

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11 Responses to “My Hormonal Balance is The Wackness. And The Wackness SUCKED.”

  1. Mel on January 14th, 2009 3:47 pm

    Beautiful!

    I don’t do the sappy stuff much either. But when you feel like that, well, you just can’t help it. :)

  2. Jill (CDJ) on January 14th, 2009 4:02 pm

    That’s so great. Every couple needs something like that to remind each other why they were together in the first place. It’s easy to forget sometimes isn’t it? :-)

  3. Todd on January 14th, 2009 4:08 pm

    I can honestly say the wife and I started taking short weekends away without the kids and it has done WONDERS for our marriage (and sex life). I recommend every couple find someone you trust with your kids for a day or two and get away. It will never be a convenient time, so just get it on the calendar and do it. Glad you guys had time to enjoy eachother, don’t forget to do it again SOON.

  4. chefswidow on January 14th, 2009 4:10 pm

    It is so easy to forget. It’s so easy to focus on the shitty parts instead of the great parts. We have always known that we need time together. Especially me. I need adult time to make up for all the kid time.

  5. Todd on January 14th, 2009 4:40 pm

    Indeed.

  6. N. on January 14th, 2009 5:34 pm

    Love that takes communication.

    Love that takes really shutting up sometimes instead of fighting back instantly.

    Great post, A.

  7. The Dumbest Smart Girl You Know on January 14th, 2009 10:31 pm

    Good for you guys!!! Btw, I tagged you with an award on my blog. Check out my last post!

  8. JZ on January 15th, 2009 12:32 pm

    I just came to the end of a long-term relationship and wish that we had the courage to just shut and listen and remember. This is far from a sappy post. This is real. Even though I don’t know you, I am proud of you. Love lost is a hollow failure. Love saved is real life. Saving love is love. Congrats. Have fun. And good luck on the new restaurant.

  9. Kelly on January 15th, 2009 2:32 pm

    This post warmed and melted my heart :) xo*

    ps – No love for The Wackness? It definitely is one of those movies you either love or hate — either way, at least it has a short running time!

  10. Collleen on January 15th, 2009 2:36 pm

    I so love your blogs missy!! and I sooo need an adult date with my Cheffy!

  11. Daisy on January 18th, 2009 9:32 pm

    We’re aiming for our 25th anniversary, and we would really like to do it without kiddos. It’s hard to say; our handicapped teen makes getting away really tough. Even if we keep our celebration short, it’ll be worthwhile.

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