Mare-Widge
Published in Widowism by chefswidowThe past two weeks have sucked for the Chef and I. He has been an uber stressball and in turn has been a little bit mean to me. He’s got a fucking insane schedule this month, he has restaurant issues, and he some other bullshit on his plate that is affecting him badly. Not to mention his serious sleep deprivation. Normally the Chef does not let things get to him. But he can only deal with things for so long. And he damn well has dealt with them long enough.
Sorry for being so cryptic but it’s not really the interwebs business.
So because of all this shit he has basically been a jerk (to me). And I hate it. I am usually the mean one, not him. He’s the nice the guy. He’s the guy who deals with my crazy on a daily basis & still gives me a back massage every night. That’s right ladies I said every night. He’s the one who tells me I am beautiful every morning even when I am SO not. So when he takes his stress out on me & is a mean jerkface, I am wholeheartedly affected. And it shows. I mope and I pout. It’s a sad sad sight.
He leaves for NYC tomorrow. I am bummed but I think the space will give him some time to relax. Are you wondering how one could relax while filming Iron Chef? Well that’s the thing about Chefs, the secret is that they are the least stressed out when they are cooking. For reals. When the Chef has one goal (cooking) and his mind is on that he is at ease. All he has to do is think about one thing. Cooking. Well maybe two things. Cooking and wining.
Hopefully being in a kitchen for 24 hours straight and being away from all the emails, phone calls, and unsolicited advice will give him a chance to calm down and come home in a happy (nice) mood. I need my happy Chef back. And some lovin’ wouldn’t be so bad either.
Sounds like I’ve got a case of the Mondays…
In other news how crazy HOT was True Blood last night? I am totally crushing on Eric. Delish.
Oh, honey. It seems the space will do you both some good. Mr. EM can get his mean face on when he’s stressing too. It does suck.
I had a Facebook friend declare that Monday should no longer be called “Monday”. From henceforth, he decrees that Monday shall be called “Pre-Tuesday”, and I have decided this friend is a genius. Think about it…the word “Monday” has an ominous ring to it, while “Pre-Tuesday” gives you something to look forward to.
We don’t have HBO, so I’ve had to satisfy my True Blood lust via first season rentals. It’s slow-going, but GOD I am loving that show. I read the books first and was hooked on Eric from the get-go…he’s my kind of vamp!!! Yum.
Happy Pre-Tuesday to you. I hope your day improves!
Widow, I’m right there with you. I know this may sound a little strange or whatever, but it works. (learned this in therapy/group) When he’s acting out anger towards you he might not be aware of it. What if you said, “Are you aware you’re being mean to me/snapping/yelling/fill in the blank?” Sometimes people just need to know what they’re doing. When I’m pissed at someone and I’m telling the story to my chef, I end up yelling at him. He asks if I’m aware I’m yelling at him…ooops, sorry chef. Works every time.
I’ve had bad luck with calling my chef out when he’s pissy. Best to back out of the room slowly. Later, when we’re having a nice dinner I’ll say “Hey, remember when you were being a douche last week? Don’t do it again!” The downside is the stewing that takes place in the meantime . . .
Can’t wait to see him on Iron Chef. You’ll let us know when it airs, right?
Hope he comes back refreshed!
Just remember getting through these moments are what makes a marriage stronger- the good times are easy, but the stressful times build character. Just remember to be kind to each other and flexible.
I hope this will cheer you up! (Because it does suck when the spouse is a meany face). I am from Columbus and was in Cleveland (my home town) over the weekend for a wedding. On Sunday I took my teens downtown to look around and showed them E 4th. Well you were having Catcher’s bday party. That party looked so awesome. Seeing all the little super heros walking around was great. That’s one they will be talking about for ages – you made some good memories there. If I had known the Iron chefs were practicing I might have tried to crash! You can tell from these posts that you are a great mom and spouse. Take care.
Best wishes with Crabby Chef – My chef starts to talk to me as if I’m an employee about to get written up (jerk) Can’t wait to see your Hubby on Iron Chef- Is he a challenger or is going on as a Sous Chef?
is it sad that I woke up on Sunday morning and thought to myself “TRUE BLOOD DAY”? Sometimes a little vampire soap opera makes the world ills fade away; if only for a while. Eric is a tasty morsel, that’s for sure.