Marriage is My Bitch
Published in Widowism by chefswidowI just realized that the Chef & I have been in a relationship for almost seven years. Whoa. That is the absolute longest time I have committed to anyone, EVER. I had been in relationships before the Chef but none ever surpassed the 2 year mark. 2 years was my get out of jail free card. And now look at me, I’ve made marriage my bitch.
The past year has shown both of us that neither of us are perfect. In fact we are far from it. But you know what, perfection is bullshit. No one is perfect and anyone who tells you they is probably snorting Ritalin in the bathroom the moment your back is turned. There have been times that I have questioned our relationship, I have doubted it’s strength and it’s determination to survive. Thoughts have danced in my mind that probably shouldn’t have. But I am not the type of girl who is going to hide from her feelings. I confront them head on. When people in relationships start to hide their feelings and compartmentalize every little thing, the problems arise. The resentment escalates and pretty soon someone is walking out the door. Believe me I know. I watched my parents hate each other for over 10 years.
Yes. We totally make-out in public.
Our seven years has showed me what true love actually is. Ours is a journey unlike any other. It can be tumultuous, it can be beautiful, but it’s ours and I am proud of what is ours. The next seven years, given our luck, will probably not be pretty or clean but I look forward to experience those years with the Chef, the man I chose as my own,with unbridled anticipation for what’s to come.
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I had the realization this weekend that my hubs and I have been together for 11 YEARS…our relationshiop could be in 5th grade (and sometimes it acts like it). Prior to him my longest realtionship was a paltry 8 months. Amazing.
Congrats to you and the chef on 7 years!
When we hit the 17 year mark just earlier this month I was totally shocked. You have to take the good with the bad in every relationship-those perfect ones probably aren’t so perfect behind closed doors. Congrats to you & Chef hitting 7 years, here’s to many many more!
Welcome to 7!! Its pretty awesome … we hit 7 in August … and are gettin hitched to celebrate in 2 weeks! 7 year itch my ass …
Congrats on the 7 year mark, it’s a big one. The 7 year itch does exist. Mr. EM and I have been together for a lucky 13 as of the start of October and it boggles my mind! My longest relationship prior to him was 9 months. I’m with him for the long haul, I know that for sure. I have no doubt that you and the Chef will make it for another 7 and forever after that. I don’t know either of you personally, but just from reading your blog, I can tell that you both care deeply about your marriage and you work hard to keep it running…not always smoothly, but even a Cadillac needs maintenance every now and then! Hope you guys have some time to celebrate each other soon!
Damn straight. The BF told me that our relationship keeps things interesting because can we go at it over the simplest things. Like laundry or dishes.
Very well put
and soo relatable! Congratulations on this milestone and many, many more to come*