My family has never thought of me as a success. Even after I had the boy I could still see the disappointment in their eyes. Even after I lived in probably the hardest city in the world to live in they still judge.
I don't let it bother me because I have a WAY different view of what I think life is all about. I do not believe that we (the human race) were put here to work. I do not think that work & careers should be the basis of our existence. Don't misunderstand, I think that work is necessary, however I will not ever let it control the outcome of my future. My parents believe different.

I never cared that they thought this of me. I have always considered myself a success based on the way I raise my son and they way I live my life. I am a great mother and a great wife. My son is a great child. I did that. His persona and his behavior is amazing because the chef & I are hands on full time parents. We both believe that he comes first. Restaurants, careers, houses, even our relationship is superseded by our son and the way he is raised. We will, for the rest of our life put our kids (and our dogs) first. I will never be that woman who works 70 hours a week and has a nanny raise her child. I will always be a hands on active mother. This is what I know, this is what I want.

The thing with my family is that they are constantly suggesting alternate career paths for the chef. "He should go into catering" or "He should open a winery". For some reason, he is not a success in there eyes. Maybe because he is following his dream (something my father did not do) or maybe because they hate his food. Who knows. All I know is that it really pisses me off. It makes me not even want to hang out with them anymore. Which sucks because I really like my fam.
It doesn't bother the chef. He lets it roll right off of him. He can feel it though. He sees the way they roll their eyes when he talks about the restaurant. He gets so much support from his own family that I am sure he is probably not needing anymore. They are unbelievably supportive, not only with his career endeavors, but with me as well. I never had that kind of support ever for anything.

I guess I really don't know what I want out of them. I just want them to understand that I am never going to be the girl without tattoo's. I am never going to tell my son what he should do with his life. I am never going to make him feel bad about what he wants to do with his life. I will always support his endeavors as long as he is not hurting himself or anyone else. I am never going to be the girl who wants her daughter to dress in all pink. I am never going to be the girl who thinks that George W. Bush is a good president. I am always going to be the girl who supports her chef and her family. I will always be the girl who believes that travel is the best educational tool ever. I will never be the girl who won't try something new. I will always be the girl who believes that family is way more important than career. I am never going to be the girl who thinks that work=life.

That's it.

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