Chef's Widow of the World: Aurora

Oh my gosh readers, Aurora is beyond cute.  I think I'm going to have hang out with her on my next trip to San Diego.  She is the raddest!  And her boys...my uterus is screaming!!!  She is also a new blogger so make sure you leave her lotsa love in the comments section. xx

What is your name & what kind of widow are you?

My name is Aurora and I am a chef's widow

Where is your casa & what is your jobby job?

We currently live in San Diego, and I am a full time domestic engineer, with a part time catering job on the side

How long have you been in a relationship with someone in the ‘industry?’

We have just hit our 5 year anniversary!

What is your biggest turnoff or dislike of being a Chef’s/Restaurant Widow?

1. The hours. Back before we had babies, when I was also working as a cook in the city, I absolutely loved the schedule. We were both gone the same amount of time so it wasn't a problem. Now that I'm home though, it's different. 2. Pity. People assume that because he's barely home we are somehow worse off and offer to help him find a different job (wtf) and “help us out”. Beyond annoying.

What is your favorite aspect of being a Chef’s/Restaurant Widow?

People in the industry are very good at taking care of each other. My husband and I love to eat out when we actually get a night together and especially on vacation. People who are into food know that when you come in to eat, you want an experience, not just a meal, and they are happy to give it to you.

Considering your significant other most likely works a million and one hours a week, how do you find time to keep the relationship alive?

My boys and I stay home in the morning so they get to have an hour or so with Daddy a day, and I wait up for him every night. Normally, he's hungry when he comes home so I'll cook him dinner too. We absolutely need that time or else it would be very easy to get lost in the mix.

When you do have time together what is your favorite thing to do (besides the nasty☺)

It's incredibly boring but when we can we like to go to the YMCA together. The man spends a ridiculous amount of time on his feet, so he swims for exercise and I usually lap swim with him. Other than that, lots of family down time!

Do you have any sage words of wisdom for those men or women just starting a new relationship with a Chef or Restaurant manager?

I know it's crazy cheesy but follow your heart and like with any relationship, make sure it's right. If my husband wasn't 100% the one for me, we would've fallen apart a while ago. This schedule is hard and will stress even the best bonds, so unless both people are completely committed, problems will arise. Also, if you're planning on having kids, be prepared to be almost solely responsible for discipline and the day to day child rearing.

Do you cook?

Yes! I cook A LOT, I'm a little crazy. We do all our own breads, yogurt, I'm determined to make homemade cheese and salami, I garden and beg the man daily for chickens. My wet dream is to one day own a farm with a restaurant where The Man and I can do everything ourselves. Raise our own cows, goats, ducks, chickens, get our dairy from our own animals, make our own cheeses, grow all herbs, veggies and fruits, literally EVERYTHING. I don't know how much sense that would make financially etc. but that's my fantasy.

What would your last meal/adult beverage on earth be? Who would you eat it with?

I really like fatty stuff, roasted bone marrow or foie gras would have to be in there somewhere. But the best meal I've had, that I wish I hadn't been pregnant while enjoying, was at Joel Robuchon at the Mansion in Las Vegas. That again, with my husband.

I know that being a mother and being married to a Chef makes me insane, how do you handle balancing your family life with such a demanding work schedule of your partner?

I'm a lucky lady with a very, very supportive partner. We had three babies in 2.5 years, which is insane even for people with normal jobs! My husband is very much a person who was meant to have kids and enjoys every second with them, which helps a lot. If I have a late night staying up with him, he'll wake up and get the kids ready for the day before waking me up. When the babies were tiny he took over the night feedings and on weekends he wakes up and takes them for donuts so I can have a morning to myself. Without these things it would be really, really hard to balance. Being “on” all the time isn't good for anyone and parenting is hard, exhausting, work. We all need a break!!

If you have/had kids would you encourage them to pursue the restaurant industry as a career?

I want my kids to do whatever makes them happy. Although this industry is hard on the body, it is also extremely passionate and exciting, which is more than most can say about their jobs. I grew up with ADD and had a horrible time concentrating in class, studying, etc. When I started cooking, I was the happiest I had ever been at work. I wanted to go every day, I took pride in my work, and I LOVED it. I know the same is true for my husband. I want that, in whatever field, for my kids.

Feel free to share an awesome widow facts about yourself &/or anything you’ve got going on…blog, restaurant events, etc…

I JUST started a blog. Had been thinking about it for what seems like forever and finally took the plunge. Hoping for it to be a bit of everything; cooking, music, fitness, family etc. Check it out www.Aerah.com. I'm also going back to school to become a Registered Dietitian! Crazy!