Ben Affleck was RIGHT

I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with.
— Ben Affleck, thanking his wife at The Oscars

After 7 years of marriage to the Chef I hold the above statement to be one of our own personal truths. The Chef and I realized early on how much work a marriage requires and we are forever working on our own marriage. 

Since we got married 7 years ago today, the Chef and I have been faced with much adversity. We were thrown into parenthood early on during a time when we both had a penchant for partying and irresponsibility. Together we quickly learned that the lifestyle we held in our early twenties would not work for us as parents. We evolved together. We grew as one and WORKED on our relationship daily and man, oh, man those days were not easy. There were many times that I wanted to throw in the towel and be done with it all and I have no doubt he had those moments as well.

But we persevered.

We fought for each other and knew that no matter how dark and dim it may get, our relationship was something that we couldn't afford to let fail. Not only for our family, but for us. We had to work at love, make time for each other, and understand that everything is not going to be unicorns and rainbows. Working at what we have has becoming an underlying theme in our life and we rely on our efforts when we are faced with the bad shit.

The past week has been a hard one for us. Things are changing internally that are making the Chef and I reconsider our goals and plans. But even as we find that people who we thought had our back ultimately don't, and things we trusted are false, I know the work we have put into our 7 year marriage will make us stronger now no matter what we must face.

Happy 7 Chef. I'm proud to work on our marriage with you everyday.